I came across a tweet tonight. It caught my eye because it had actress Valerie Bertinelli. I am proud to say I watched the original One Day At A Time through all its seasons. The reboot is on some channel now. However, I’m an “Original Show Snob.” With all of the brain science surrounding learning and improved medical information, there is no reason to redo famous television shows. But I went left…Anyway, back to Ms. Bertinelli.
She looked awesome! This woman hadn’t aged a day! In fact, I almost tweeted that she had Black-Don’t-Crack genes. But it was Twitter, and I didn’t need the hurt feelings brigade. Well…it still came.
The woman I was replying to (a White Woman) said, “We’re the same age.” I’m going to pause for a minute…Umm…I wasn’t expecting that response because my tweet didn’t require that response. Umm…
WTF??? So…just me tweeting this woman triggered her “Woe Is Me What About Me White Woman” response? Really? Her age didn’t matter because…It was about Valerie Bertinelli! But, of course, I approached her softly. I used my “How To Navigate White Person World” tools (the ones I was raised with), to respond to her tweet…
Well, obviously, she was too deep into her hurt feelings and experiencing faux embarrassment from a random tweeter, that she muted me. She…muted…me…? So, to recap, this woman had hurt feelings because I didn’t recognize she was the same age as Ms. Bertinelli. Sigh… I used the “Black Person Tool of Making It Easy” so she wouldn’t be hurt. White ??woman ??muted ??me ??anyway.
Fam, I commented on how young Bertinelli looked and this woman (who doesn’t know me from her twat) got OFFENDED because I didn’t recognize she was the same age. ? I was commenting as a “Woman of a Certain Age” who is dealing with body changes at 49. Wait…
My reply doesn’t matter…My reply isn’t the problem. This woman’s false hurt was the problem. I don’t have time for false victimhood on social media!
Ugh…After 24 years of working with mostly White Women and now dealing with their false sense of power after Trump was elected, I realize that the change in air quality can affect their victimhood. (This last year has been worse than the previous 23 years.) But to have a woman get offended by not recognizing she’s the same age as Bertinelli…That’s just peak fragility.
BovaryCee 
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